If you've ever wondered what it's like to go to a restaurant alone or you're debating whether eating out alone is "normal," this guide will help you shift your perspective, feel more comfortable, and even look forward to your next meal for one!
Dining solo can feel intimidating at first, especially as a woman, but it's also one of the most liberating experiences you can have (in my opinion). I've eaten alone while traveling abroad in cities like Paris and Mexico City, as well as at home in Houston, Texas, and I can tell you that it's far from weird or sad.
And if you enjoy this post, you'll love my tips for taking Instagram-worthy solo travel photos!
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The Benefits of Solo Dining
There's so much freedom in dining alone as a woman. Instead of worrying about conversation or compromising on cuisine, you can:
- Eat exactly what you want. No splitting plates unless you choose to.
- Set your own pace. Linger over a glass of wine or scarf down your tacos. No judgement!
- Indulge in self-care. When you enjoy your own company, it doesn't have to be fine dining to feel luxurious.
- Boost your confidence. Overcoming the fear of eating alone helps in other areas of life, too.
I've found solo eating to be especially rewarding when traveling. If I want to relax in solitude, I can. And if I want to make friends with the bartender or other diners, I can do that, too!
Pro Travel Tip
If you're nervous, start at a casual spot like a cafe or somewhere with counter service. These places are known for being friendly to solo diners, and there's much less pressure vs. a formal dinner service.
The Drawbacks of Dining Alone
Solo dining is a growing trend worldwide. Restaurants are catching on, reservations for tables of one are increasing, and more women are embracing the confidence that comes with being a party of one. To be real, though, there are some potential drawbacks:
- Awkward moments: Yes, sometimes you'll get asked, "Just one?" at the table. I just smile and enthusiastically say "Mm-hmm!"
- Loneliness: If you aren't used to spending time alone, this can hit you, especially if it's a holiday like Valentine's Day or the eatery is just full of lively couples and groups.
- Safety considerations: As a woman, I'm mindful of how much I drink, where I sit, and how late I stay out.
That said, most of these challenges can be managed with preparation and perspective. Despite what Charlotte said in that one Sex and the City episode, eating out alone is no more "embarassing" than going to the gym solo or catching a movie by yourself. It's simply another way to live fully and independently.
When I travel solo, I stick to a two-drink maximum and, of course, never accept drinks from anyone, in order to stay safe. Read my safety tips for solo travelers!
Tips for Dining Solo as a Woman
Here are the strategies that have helped me turn eating out alone into something I genuinely love and never think twice about:
Do your research. Use apps like OpenTable or read reviews to find the best restaurants for solo diners.
Dress to impress yourself. Wear the outfit! Get dressed like you would for girls' night out or a hot date--whatever makes you feel your best. Use my travel style guides for inspiration!
Bring something with you. Feel like you need a security blanket? Take a book or tablet to ease your anxiety and give you something to do while you wait for your food.
Choose your seat wisely. As a seasoned solo diner (and an unapologetic Leo), I don't mind being the center of attention, but for beginners, sitting at the bar can feel more comfortable than a two-top in the middle of the room.
Or try a communal table where talking to strangers doesn't raise any eyebrows.
Be present. Savor your food. People watch. Own the experience.
Pro Travel Tip
When in doubt, try a tasting menu, which allows you to sample a variety of dishes, and you tend to get extra time to make conversation with your server. I've tried these guided meals in many destinations and never regretted it!
Dining Experience 🤝🏾 Confidence Boost
I highly recommend group culinary experiences when traveling because you can connect with local food culture on your own terms and make friends along the way. These are things like:
Whenever possible, book with local operators for more authentic experiences and to support the community you're visiting. Bring an open mind, a hungry belly, and cash to tip the staff!
Is solo dining weird?
TLDR: No. I remember getting peppered with questions when I first started going out and eating alone many years ago. Market adaptation and cultural practices have even helped normalize solo restaurants globally.
Single dining has long been the norm in Japan. And when I was in France, it was no biggie for women to grab a meal and a glass of wine alone with no hesitation.
Don't just take my word for it. Read Tracee Ellis Ross' teachings for solo travelers, including how to be brave, party of one!
Frequently Asked Questions
It's simply eating out at restaurants alone--whether it's a casual coffee spot, a luxury resort in the Caribbean, or a high-end meal at a Michelin-starred eatery.
Truthfully, everywhere. I've dined by myself at upscale chains like Nobu, mom and pop spots, roadside stands, and everywhere in between. The best places for you will depend on your comfort level and interests.
My Favorite Restaurants for Solo Dining
Next time you're unsure about dining alone as a woman, remember that you deserve the meal, the experience, and the confidence that comes from owning your space. Some of the best memories happen at a table for one! And sharing is caring, so be sure to pin this post for later and follow me over on Pinterest. Thanks for reading!
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